I’ve been complaining to friends and family recently that, while I have really enjoyed the wedding planning process (including being able to incorporate a lot of my project management expertise in order to pull a lot of it off ourselves), it’s the long list of little things that I’ve forgotten about until later than I would’ve liked that have been getting to me.
So, I’ve compiled a little list of them. Stuff I never thought about at the beginning, but are probably very obvious to many people. Just in case they aren’t, though, hopefully this list will help someone!
- Non-alcoholic drinks. Some people don’t drink! I’d spent ages thinking about wine and beer and cocktails, no one thought about water until I saw it written down on our event manager’s questionnaire.
- Accessories. I just got my pocket square for my suit today. Lots of this stuff came in little pieces – I got a pocket watch from Charles’ dad, and a tartan tie in the colours of my Dad’s mother’s clan. I’m wondering now whether my fiancé has considered this sort of thing, or if he’ll even care about a pocket square! But to me, it was these things that made my suit pop, and I thought about them late in the day.
- Stationary, including an A1 piece of card for the table plan, a “recommended cocktails” menu for the bar, menus for the table… I thought about table cards and place cards, but it’s surprisingly difficult to find A1 card without paying through the nose! Then there’s having to design what it’ll look like…
- On a more general point, and this cannot be emphasised enough: DIY takes longer than you think it will. MUCH longer. And it’s hard to keep a lid on. Once you start doing bits and pieces it’s really hard to stop!!
- Playlists! We haven’t done ours yet – there is time, but something that requires a bit of thought and time together to think about!
- Speeches… we totally forgot about these and only remembered recently. Probably won’t take long to write, but another thing that popped into our heads quite late on.
- Someone will want to know – usually the venue manager and caterer – exactly what’s happening for the whole day. I had a rough day-of timeline, but had to go into much more detail!! And make sure you’re gathering all the vendors’ mobile phone numbers in one place. I didn’t. Don’t be like me.
- Make a list of what needs transporting to your venue so you don’t forget – and what you still need to get but can’t until closer to the time. I can’t stop thinking about this one!!
- Allow more time and patience than usual to have awkward conversations about money, family troubles, preferences, and worries than you normally would, particularly in the last 3 months leading up to the day.
- Allow more time and patience for dealing with vendors and everyone involved – suddenly everyone wants to reconfirm everything, which is a perfectly reasonable ask, but when you have wed head, you just want everyone to let you be!!